ArKane Lifestyle

The Invisible Man I’ve learned that feeling invisible in a relationship isn’t accidental. It’s psychological. Predictable. Almost boring in how consistently it shows up once you know what to look for. One of the biggest culprits is habituation . The human nervous system is lazy. It stops registering stimuli that feel constant and non-threatening. So, when you’re emotionally reliable, available, and steady, your presence fades into the background. You become part of the enviro

I'm Not The Man I Used To Be I was told recently that I’m not the man I used to be. It wasn’t said gently. It wasn’t said with concern. It was thrown at me in the heat of an argument, sharpened to wound, and it worked. Not because it was cruel, but because it was true. I sat with that sentence longer than I expected to. At first, it felt like an accusation. A verdict. As if the man I was had died somewhere along the way and I was standing trial for it, but once the emotional

Love Is Not Enough Things I Finally Stopped Arguing With As is usually the case at this time of year, I’ve spent the last few weeks reflecting. Not the polite, performative kind of reflection, but the kind forced on you by ugly conversations. The kind that don’t escalate, don’t resolve, but quietly expose things you’ve been avoiding. The last few weeks didn’t introduce brand-new truths. They deepened old ones, and that distinction matters. Knowing something and accepting it l

Is There Any Hope Left? Love Isn’t Dying. People Just Don’t Know How To Tell the Truth Anymore. I’ve spent most of my life moving through relationships the way a person walks through a dimly lit room: cautiously, hoping not to bump into something that hurts. For years, I thought love was supposed to be difficult, that sacrifice was the price of admission, and that giving more than I received was simply part of my nature. Maybe it’s the Pisces in me. Maybe it’s the way I was r

The Third Family: The Secret to a Man’s Strength The Day I Almost Broke When my daughter suffered a stroke, my world shattered. She...

Fathers Who Fail Breed Broken Men Master Your Dogs — or Don’t Call Yourself a Father As boys, we are born with two dogs chained to our...

When Words Don't Matter The Silent Marginalization of Men in Relationships I’ve been thinking a lot about where I find myself in life and...

Dismantling the Puppet Strings: Recognizing and Breaking Free from Covert Control Why Men Are Withdrawing from Modern Dating: A...

The Biggest Scam in History: Do We Really Need Governments? 🔥 I Put It To You... Let’s stop pretending. ZAR doesn’t have a government —...

The Unseen Edge: Five Rings of Wisdom for Life and Leadership I don’t care who you are, what title you’ve dressed yourself up in, or how...

This isn’t just my story—it’s the story of anyone the system tries to erase I need to be brutally honest with you. My current job search...

What I wish someone had told me before I gave corporate two decades of my life The unspoken rules no one warns you about — until it’s too...

One Saying, Two Viewpoints I’ve heard “happy wife, happy life”  my entire adult life. Usually from a man who looks like he hasn’t won an...

Too Black For One, Not Black Enough For The Other I love South Africa. Deeply! I breathe its air, walk its soil, carry its rhythm in my...

Through My Silence, I Hoped You’d Hear Me “I’ve always been better at silence than speeches. Better at watching over you than explaining...

You Thought He Just Wanted Sex—But He Was Dying to Be Loved Introduction As a man well into his forties, I’ve had time to sit with some...

What I Gave Without Asking—and Why It Nearly Cost Me Everything How Covert Contracts & Unmet Expectations Nearly Destroyed Everything "I...

Your Opinion, God’s Name: How Spiritual Manipulation Breaks the Faithful I’ve always believed in living my life with integrity—quietly...

The Lone Wolf Life is all about discovering who you are , and delving into the discovery as a means of getting a deeper understanding of...

Tied at the Soul I have always been an observer of human behavior, watching the world around me evolve—or rather, devolve—into a chaotic...