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Writer's pictureDamien Blaauw

Navigating Parenthood in the Cycle of Strength & Hardship




As a parent navigating the tumultuous waters of modern society, I often find myself pondering the age-old adage: "Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times."

The saying encapsulates the cyclical nature of strength and hardship that shapes human history and profoundly influences the challenges of raising children today.

In this blog post, I'll delve into the complexities of parenting within this cycle, exploring the profound impact it has on our children and offering strategies for navigating these challenges with resilience and purpose.


The Cycle of Strength and Hardship: Reflecting on my own journey through parenthood, I've come to appreciate the transformative power of adversity. It's during the toughest times that we often witness the emergence of resilience, determination, and strength in ourselves and our children, whether facing financial struggles, personal hardships, or global crises, these challenges compel us to adapt, innovate, and persevere, laying the groundwork for progress and prosperity.

However, as we emerge from hardship into periods of abundance and comfort, I can't help but notice the subtle shifts in our societal values and priorities. The ease and affluence of good times can breed complacency and weaken the resolve of individuals, including our children.

In an era marked by instant gratification and technological immersion, I find myself grappling with the challenge of instilling values such as resilience, patience, and empathy in my children.


Challenges of Raising Children Today: In today's fast-paced and hyper-connected world, the challenges of parenthood are manifold. I see my children navigating a landscape inundated with distractions, pressures, and unrealistic expectations. The allure of instant gratification, coupled with the constant barrage of social media and consumerism, poses a significant obstacle to cultivating resilience and perseverance.

Moreover, the pressure to succeed in academics, extracurricular activities, and social spheres looms large over our children's lives. As a parent, I'm acutely aware of the toll this pressure can take on their mental and emotional well-being, fueling anxiety, stress, and a fear of failure.


Navigating Parenthood in the Modern Era: Despite these challenges, I'm committed to guiding my children with intentionality and purpose. Here are some strategies I've found helpful in navigating parenthood amidst the cycle of strength and hardship:

  1. Cultivating resilience: I strive to encourage my children to embrace challenges as opportunities for growth and learning, whether facing academic setbacks, interpersonal conflicts, or personal disappointments, I emphasize the importance of perseverance and resilience in overcoming obstacles.

  2. Fostering independence: I believe in empowering my children to make decisions and learn from their mistakes. By granting them autonomy and agency in their lives, I hope to instill a sense of confidence and self-reliance that will serve them well in the face of adversity.

  3. Prioritizing values over material success: Above all, I aim to instill in my children a strong moral compass and a sense of empathy towards others. By prioritizing kindness, integrity, and compassion, I hope to nurture the qualities of character that are essential for navigating life's challenges with grace and integrity.

  4. Leading by example: As a parent, I recognize the immense influence I have on my children's development. By modeling resilience, integrity, and empathy in my own life, I strive to provide a positive example for them to emulate as they navigate the complexities of the world around them.

Parenthood is a journey fraught with challenges and uncertainties, particularly in the face of the cyclical nature of strength and hardship, however, by approaching this journey with intentionality, resilience, and compassion, I believe we can help our children navigate the complexities of modern society with grace and integrity.

In doing so, we not only break the cycle of weakness and hardship but also lay the groundwork for a future generation of individuals who are equipped to confront adversity with courage, compassion, and resilience.


Sadly, many parents do not observe this cyclical phenomenon and the resultant effect is a generation of feeble-minded, entitled and weak children who cannot deal with the harsh realities of the real world. My motivation may seem selfish, but I choose to give my kids the unfiltered view of the real world, so that they understand the value of hard work and sacrifice as well as the value of manners and staying grounded.

I will not allow my kids to succumb to the adage of "Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times." I owe it to them to show them the way!


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